Rim Jobs For Men 101

Despite the immense levels of pleasure that can come from good anal play, many people still hesitate to participate in rim jobs. Well, that's understandable, of course –given that it involves mouth on an area where poop comes out. Nobody wants to get feces in their mouth, or be farted on, after all! But if you were to give rimming a chance, you might find that it'll lead to a sexual rollercoaster of moans, groans, and breathless bedsheet grasping for your partner. Now, what else could be more arousing than pleasuring your lover? And besides, you'll find that it's not as messy as you think it is.To help ease your anxiety about this seemingly taboo act, unleash your sexual prowess, and give your partner a fantastic sensation he may not know exists, read this guide on how to give him a rim job that'll blow his mind (and load).

What is a rim job?

Rimming, also known as analingus or tossing the salad, is the act of stimulating someone’s anus with your mouth. Think of it as oral sex, only this time on the butthole, if you will. A rim job differs from wearing a butt plug or inserting a penis or toy into the anus; it's more akin to anal play that is limited to the outer rim of the asshole.

Why does rimming feel good for him?

You might not know this, but the anus is an erogenous zone that’s full of nerve endings that are connected to his pelvic floor muscles and border the genitals. They can deliver a lot of pleasure to your partner when stimulated, especially around the opening of the anus where rimming occurs. Some men can also experience prostate – the G-spot equivalent for males – pleasure through rimming, which can lead to an intense, back-arching, toe-curling anal orgasm.

Your partner may also get turned on by the erotic taboo nature of the act; the ‘raunchy’ or ‘dirty’ label butt play can be very psychologically sexy for him. So, if your partner typically gets off on taboo fantasies or sexual acts, rimming can be a serious game-changer for your sex life.

Is rimming safe?

As with all sex acts, there are some safer sex techniques you need to keep in mind when going down on your partner’s delicious asshole. Since the anus is an opening at the end of the gastrointestinal tract, it can harbor bacteria. Infections such as UTIs and bacterial vaginosis can arise if this bacteria comes into contact with the vagina. Also, while it’s perfectly safe to ingest the bacteria (provided that your partner is healthy), you have to admit it's kind of gross. So, you should always get your partner to wash their anal area with water before engaging in rimming. Just a tip: a detachable showerhead can be very useful in getting to those nooks and crannies. If you want, you can also get your partner to shave, so the area feels extra smooth when you're going down on him.

Even though rimming is believed to be less risky than penetrative anal sex when it comes to contracting STIs, there's always still a chance of transmission for infections that are spread through skin-to-skin contact, like HPV or syphilis. Unless you're 100% sure that your partner is clean, you should always use a safer sex barrier, like a dental dam, to be extra safe. Stay healthy, always!

How do I give him a rim job he’ll never forget?

Coming around to the idea of pleasuring your partner in his butthole? Great! Here’s how you can make rimming a wildly unforgettable experience for you both:

• Always ask your partner before diving in. First things first: get consent before your tongue lands on his anus. As with any form of anal play, it’s crucial to have a conversation with your partner before licking his asshole out. You never want to take him by surprise; shock or discomfort can make the anal muscles tense up, which means less pleasure for you and him both. Only proceed when he’s on board with the idea.
• Warm it up. Just like in other kinds of oral sex, the buildup is vital. Take your time zeroing in on your partner's anus. Massage, knead and kiss the butt cheeks. If your partner likes it rough, you can even bite the fleshy part of his glutes to get him more fired up before the main act.
• Switch up your licking techniques. Remember that your tongue is a versatile tool – you can make it flat for a softer and broader surface, or pointy for concentrated stimulation. Here are a few different tongue techniques you can use on your partner:
• Up and down – As the name suggests, all you need to do is lick your man's anus up and down using your tongue. Be sure to use a ton of saliva; a dry tongue will pull on the delicate skin around his anus. Not a pleasant experience.
• Kiss kiss – After a few minutes of continuous licking, your tongue (and jaw) will undoubtedly fatigue. Don't be afraid to rest. Start using your lips to lay kisses all around his asshole. Again, try to use loads of saliva.
• Toothy fruity – For this, you want to slowly and gently drag your teeth over his anus. Do not, under any circumstances, bite his asshole; you don’t want to hurt him!
• Time for penetration. Once you've mastered rimming the outside of his anus, you can move on to penetration. Make your tongue pointed and slightly narrower, then begin slowly inserting into his butthole. How far in you go depends on how comfortable you and your partner are with the act, of course. And as usual, never penetrate without getting permission!
• Use your hands too. Don't forget that you still have hands! To layer the sensations, you can gently scratch his butt cheeks, fondle his genitals, or even use your finger to act as your tongue when you get tired.
• Get him to spread his bum in different positions.
• Like a doggy – Get your man to get on his hands and knees on the bed.
• Bent over – Ask your man to stand up and bend over such that he’s grabbing his ankles; he can bend his knees to make this position more comfortable is he’s not flexible.
• Missionary – Get your man to lie on his back while grabbing his ankles.
• Throw in some rimming toys. If your tongue gets too tired to continue, there’s nothing wrong with bringing a butt-centric toy into the mix. Something like a rimming plug designed with motorized beads can help turn up those pleasure sensors on your partner’s anus, as well.

And there you go: you now know everything there is to know about the X-rated version of tossing salad. You won’t ever be caught off-guard if, one day, your boyfriend (or husband) asks for a rim job. Even better, you can suggest it the next time you both get your sexy on. Go ahead and blow his mind!