If what we see in porn is indicative of people's everyday sex lives, then women would all be gushing liquids of erotic bliss at every orgasm. Well, sorry, but that's not real reality. Porn videos are not accurate replicas of how sex works (thankfully); not all men have massive members that measure longer than 7 inches, and not all women have Niagra Falls for vaginas. With that said, the elusive sex sensation – squirting – can be accomplished with some practice. Thought not all women are capable of it, experimenting can be really fun.
Squirting happens when a varying amount of watery fluid comes out of the urethra during sexual arousal and stimulation, often just before the big 'O'. And while porn would have you believe that all squirting involves fluids gushing out with the force of a garden hose, the reality is a lot tamer. The rush of fluids can range from a little bit of liquid to a small stream. And from a dribble to a squirt.
Is squirting like driving, where most people can learn with practice? Or – is it like being able to roll your tongue, where some people will never be able to do it, no matter how hard they try?
Well, there's a lot of debate when it comes to whether all women are capable of squirting. According to research, only a small number of women have ever squirted, and most do it rarely. Nonetheless, biological evidence suggests that all folks with vulvas are physically capable of squirting.
So – if you were planning to 'X' out of this article, don't. After all, the process of attempting to make your partner squirt is far more fun – and erotic – than learning how to parallel park, so you'll enjoy yourself regardless of whether or not she ultimately turns into a human geyser.
Squirting is commonly thought to be distinct from peeing. Many researchers believe that the fluid originates from the Skene’s glands, which is the female equivalent of the prostate.
Now, since both pee and squirting fluid pass through the urethra, it's not uncommon for a tiny amount of urine to make its way into your partner's happy gush. So, if you're squeamish about coming into contact with urine, you could ask her to use the bathroom before getting down and dirty on her.
Ahm, no. Though it may seem like that in porn, most women (and scientific evidence) will show you that the ejaculatory orgasm is not more enjoyable or intense than a regular one. The act of squirting is not the pinnacle of the female climax. For some women, squirting enhances the orgasm, and for others, it does nothing or can even detract for it.
Having this knowledge might not make the prospect of making your partner as exciting. However, chances are high you'll both still be turned on by the novelty and sensuality of the experience, so do your best nonetheless!
If your partner has never squirted before, you'll need to get her massively aroused before she can do so. So, bust out all your foreplay chops. Passionately kiss her as you put your hands on her. Tease her. Circle her clit, but pull back your hand just before you come into contact with it.
Get her dripping wet before you even touch her pussy. You’ll know it’s time to rub her clit when she’s practically pulling your hands (or face) towards her pussy. Also, even though she’s probably already soaked with pleasure, you should still get your hands on some lube to enhance her sensations.
By the way: if you do succeed in making her squirt, things may get a bit, well, messy. If you’re worried about over-saturating your sheets, put down some towels beforehand.
Now that she’s incredibly horny, it’s time for you to start fingering her. You’ll need to pay extra attention to her G-spot. To find it, slide the pad of your finger along the vaginal upper wall – the magical spot will be between 2 – 3 inches deep inside. It’s obvious when you’ve found the G-spot; it’s a small ridged area that feels similar to a wet raspberry.
Found the G-spot? Awesome. Now, you need to give it some tender loving care. Curl your lubed finger (or fingers, if your partner likes that) into a “come here” motion and start to stimulate her G-spot. Bear in mind that you’ll need to continue giving her G-spot nice, intense pressure for at least 10 – 20 minutes before she can squirt, so settle down and have patience! To prevent fatigued fingers, you can try switching up techniques; here are few to add to your G-spot fingering arsenal:
If you were paying attention, you’d have noticed that it might take up to 30 minutes of finger-banging your girl before she squirts. That’s, undoubtedly, a lot of work. But hey, nobody said you couldn’t give your hands a break by throwing a few sex toys specifically designed for her G-spot, like a rabbit vibrator, into the mix!
These toys have contoured heads that do most of the work for you – now, you can pay more attention to just how much she’s enjoying yourself.
To bring her over the edge, you can double her pleasure by stimulating her clit, while maintaining pressure on her G-spot. Now, you might be reading this with furrowed eyebrows, because is it even possible to comfortably play with both the G-spot and the clit at the same time? Don’t worry – you don’t need additional hands to help with this.
Here are a few positions that make it easy for you to finger your girl:
At this point, some women feel like they could squirt, but are too afraid to. Mostly because they think they will "pee on you". Or it will embarrassing, or unsanitary. If that's the case, reassure her that you don't mind a little liquid (or a lot), and in fact, it turns you on to see her do that! Her being able to relax is a crucial part of letting go and be able to squirt.
If your partner is not squirting despite your best efforts, don’t pressure her. Every woman’s body is different; ultimately, it doesn’t matter if you open the floodgates of the Hoover Dam from your partner’s nether regions. Instead of focusing on the destination, why not just put a towel down and enjoy the journey? The point of trying new sexual things is to try new things, not to gain some kind of achievement or gold star for squirting. Just relax, enjoy the feelings, and if it happens, it happens.