There’s just something about putting someone’s privates in your mouth that makes you wonder, "Am I doing this right?".
Let's face it: having a penis shoved down your throat is not easy. At all. In addition to worrying about teeth placement, suction, and gag reflex, you still need to be conscious about moaning and looking sexy. Well, at least we now know why there's a 'job' in blowjob. But fear not, penis worshipers, the blowjob is one job you can excel in with the right oral repertoire tips and tricks. Read on to find out how you can leave your man in a state of absolute orgasmic bliss from your top-notch sucking skills.
Don't just dive into the blow job at sprint speed, aiming to get it over as quickly as possible. It's a mood-killer. Think about it: how hard can he get if you're visibly tapping your foot, waiting for him to blow his load so you can get back to whatever you were doing? Also, going in too fast and furious might snap his dick, so don't.
There’s so much you can do before even touching the penis. Yes, foreplay is critical – even for a blow job. Draw out those stray touches on his body; undress him slowly; kiss him on the chest. A blowjob should be exciting and seductive – always. Don’t rush.
A blowjob typically lasts 4 minutes. So while you don’t have to worry about finding a position that will be comfortable for the long-haul, you still need to find one that feels good for you. If your partner is standing and you’re kneeling on the floor, pop a pillow under your knees. Two other positions include the boss' chair (where your man is seated) or the regular blowjob position, where he's on his back, and you're on your stomach.
Once you're both comfortable and his penis is engorged with desire, let the oral sex begin. Slide your mouth up and down his dick a few times, while maintaining a tight seal with your mouth. You can do so by forming an 'O' shape with your lips. Use spit in excess – the wetter, the better he feels! As you get more comfortable with this technique, try taking him deeper and deeper with each stroke, so you stimulate more of his penis.
And unless explicitly allowed, you should never use your teeth on him – getting scraped while getting a blowjob can ruin the experience for him, just because of how painful and uncomfortable it is. Also, if you need a quick break, your hands will come in, well – handy. Blowjobs are undeniably punishing for the jaw. If you need a second to adjust, your hand can let you do that without breaking the rhythm.
PROPER pressure, suction, and hand motion is really key for a mind-blowing blowjob. Luckily, its easy to find it what it is. Try different variations, more vacuum, tighter grip, faster strokes, and you'll notice that most guys prefer have the same certain 'keylock' combination. Don't worry, they will usually let you know immediately! Usually with harder moans or a "Oh yeah, just like that!". Once you find the master opening, just keep at it. It might be physically uneasy at first, so it will require some practice. But don't worry, just the fact you hit the combination will make the guy want you to come back. Few people take the time to really hit the combination.
You don't have to place 100% of your attention on the penis itself. If your partner has given you their enthusiastic consent before-hand, feel free to suck on their balls or give a few gentle licks to their buttholes. Another erogenous place to explore is the perineum – the bit between the bum and the penis. As it contains lots of nerve endings, it can feel mind-blowing when touched. Add it to the list. But ask first, some guys might be very ticklish in that area, or just too scared to try it.
Once you’ve settled into your basic stroke, it’s time to add some spice into your knob job! After all, nothing kills joy – and arousal – faster than the same, old, boring method. Up and down, up and down, up and down. Here are a few things to try:
There’s nothing more arousing than receiving a blowjob from someone who’s clearly into it. If you're enjoying sucking some dick, let it show! (Side note for women: If you’re getting wet from sucking him off, let him know. Better yet, grab a fingertip of your juices and use it as lube ladies. You’ll blow his mind (and quite possibly his load)). And when he’s out of your mouth, throw some dirty talk into the mix – explicitly tell him how good his dick tastes, and how hot he makes you feel.
You don't have to take your mouth off his penis the second he ejaculates. Instead, you can continue sucking – but gently, because the penis head is very sensitive right now – for a few minutes.
Although unlikely, unfortunately, oral sex isn't completely safe sex. It's one of the ways in which sexually transmitted infections (STIs) can be passed on. STIs commonly caught through oral sex include gonorrhea, genital herpes, and syphilis. One of the ways to reduce the risk of STI transmission when giving your man the best blowjob of his life, you can have him wear a condom. Yes, we know its not 'as sexy' in the heat of moment, but it's becoming a much more popular and accepted way of being so don't be hesitant to give it a go!
Don’t worry, it’s completely normal to have a gag reflex when something is placed into your throat. If your lover is particularly well-endowed, you can make use of the hand-and-mouth technique:
Place one hand at the base of your man's penis, and you can proceed with sucking his penis as you typically would. Only, you'd need to move your hand in sync with your mouth - like an extension.
Now, if you're gagging because of the way his genitals smell, you can always get him to take a shower right before going down on him. You could also remind him to keep his pubic hair shaved and short for hygiene purposes. Most men will be happy to do that for you.
No – of course not. Don’t feel pressured to swallow! If you don’t want to swallow, you have a few options:
You'll most likely be able to tell if he's enjoying himself. If he's breathing heavy, bucking his hips, or grinding them in conjunction with your movements, he's getting the best head of his life. And if he's moaning and talking dirty, you know you've got him!
And there you go – you now know how to give an amazing blowjob. Happy sucking!
