We've all had those days (and sometimes weeks or months) when your girl ends a long day, exhausted, and wants nothing more than to put on her favorite pair of sweatpants and eat cereal out of the box. But – you want sex. But even when everything around you seems to indicate zero percent physical intimacy on the horizon, there are still a few ways to spark her desire.
Seduction starts long before you try to take her clothes off. You can think of women like crockpots – slow to warm up, so it helps to turn on the power early on to score later in the day. If you want her to open the door, raring to get down with you, start dirty talking the moment she starts her day. Build sexual anticipation gradually throughout the day. If you get the opportunity to grab lunch with her mid-day, play footsie under the table. Indulge in some PDA and shower her with compliments. Then, continue sexting her with dirty and lusty messages when you're apart. Not sure what to say when she’s in front of you? Here are some lines to steal:
And if you’re someone who stares at the blinking cursor on your phone, not quite sure what to sext her with, feel free to copy and paste:
Think about it – if she's been on her feet the entire day, the last thing on her mind is physical exertion in the form of sex. But if you dedicate an evening to take her out on a surprise dinner date where you pamper her and make her feel like a queen, she's bound to get in the mood quickly. A night out can spur all kinds of feel-good emotions, especially when indulging in fine wine and delicious food in the romantic ambiance of a restaurant. Be sure to dole out tons of compliments when having a meal together.
Thank her for making an effort to dress herself up; let her know that her hair looks amazing, and touch her gently at strategic spots of her body, such as her thighs, waist, and her butt. Make her know that you're craving her and that she's noticed. Even before you step into the bedroom. If you do everything right, she should be all over you by the time your date ends!
Pamper her with a massage: foot massage, neck massage, or back massage – whichever you're most confident at, a relaxing massage can get her in the mood. Try incorporating scented massage oils or a massage candle to add some slickness. After getting out the knots, feel free to let your hands stray a little!
Don't underestimate the sexual power of a fantastic make-out session. Not only is the act of kissing a physical turn-on, but it's also an emotional act that builds intimacy. There's truly nothing hotter than making her know that you want every inch of her. That said, you don't have to stick to her luscious lips – you can also put your mouth at the back of the neck, lower back, fingers, and even fingers. Lay your romantic lip caresses everywhere.
Don’t forget that you have hands, too! Make full use of them. Show your thirst for her body by using your hands to touch other parts of her body, like her boobs and ass. When she reciprocates with similar urgency, consider transitioning to French kissing. Graze your tongue between her lips and slowly add a little tongue; chase her tongue for a couple of seconds. While French kissing is all about passion, there is a fine line between the perfect amount of tongue and too much tongue. Pay attention to how your partner is responding – always.
There's no way she's going to want to get between the sheets with you when the laundry is strewn across the floor, and unwashed dishes are in the sink. Clean up your act before she gets home, so she only has one thing on her mind: getting laid. Instead of policing your mess, as she always does. Go the extra mile and light up a few candles to set the mood. Better yet, cook a meal for her where she doesn't have to worry about clean up. If you take care of her right, you'll reap the rewards later in bed.
Get your girl in the mood for some steamy action by watching erotic movies together. You might want to steer away from conventional, male-centric porn videos, though – most women wouldn't get aroused from those. Instead, watch TV series or movies that feature realistic sex scenes. Watching pornographic media with her expands your sexual repertoire, too, which is the key to having a long-lasting, enjoyable sex life.
Don’t plunge right into it when the steamy video starts rolling, though! Mind-blowing sex is all about the anticipation; promise each other that you’ll wait for the credits to roll before turning your attention to each other. Delaying the 'main course' will make you both so aroused. But that doesn't mean that you can't touch each other; it'd be good if you both cuddled and caressed each other while watching the video. She'll be dripping wet by the time you put your lips on hers at the end of it.
There's no better way to get her in the mood other than eating her out? After you’ve aroused her sufficiently with a lustful make-out session, spread her legs and go down on her. Gently separate her vaginal lips using your fingertips to expose her clit; explore the sensitive folds of skin with your tongue. Alternate between pressing firmly and licking gently. Occasionally throw in a few longer, flatter strokes over the length of her vulva, almost as though you’re licking the most indulgent ice cream cone you’ve had in your life.
Tell her how good she tastes and how much you enjoy licking her out. When she’s moaning and arching her back, begging for more, insert a lubed finger (or two) into her vagina. Slide it in and out; watch for her response – if she becomes more aroused, continue. But if she tenses up or tells you to stop, stop.
If you’re finger-fucking her, try to locate her G-spot. It’s a dime-sized area of ultra-sensitive tissue located on the upper vaginal walls; you’ll know when you find it – it feels similar to a wet raspberry. Try circling it with your middle finger and watch as she gets overwhelmed with pleasure.
As you can see, there are many simple – and enjoyable – ways to get her horny and dripping wet. Whatever you decide to do, though, remember that it's not cool to force yourself onto your partner. If she says no, respect her decision. You can suggest other possibilities, like cuddling, exchanging massages, and making out. There’s more than one way to enjoy one another’s bodies.
