If you’re into pussy, eating someone out can be one of the hottest things in the universe. But going down can also be intimidating. Vaginas are akin to snowflakes, each one unique, special, and sensitive—this is not a one-size-fits-all. Here are some suggested techniques you can use to get a 5-star review.
The first step to going pro is to understand a little bit about the female anatomy. Every pussy is different, too—so before you go in, get the lay of the land. Licking her pussy without knowing which part you’re stimulating, then hoping for an orgasm, is like winning the lottery: possible, but unlikely. We’ll break it down for you:
Women are like dials, not switches. In most cases, you can't just tear off her panties and go at her clit like a dog at a bone. Hard licks or sucking right from the get-go can be painful if she's not aroused. Spend time kissing her: from her mouth to her toes. Gently spread open her thighs and caress her. Whatever foreplay she’s into, do a lot of it. Without foreplay, women can only orgasm a tragic 25% of the time. The more you tease, the more likely she’ll pull your face towards her already dripping wet pussy.
Before you go down, create a "cup" with your hand, and put your hand on top of her entire vagina. Apply some gentle pressure. Your hand is “hugging” the outside of her vagina, while providing pressure on the tissue inside. This feels really good for a woman as she is getting aroused, and its a great non-intrusive way to get her started.
Yes, her clit is the main event. But you’ll need an opening act as well as an overture. Try gentled stroking her labia—if she’s already wet, you’re doing awesome. Start from the outside and work your way in. Playfully kiss and lick up, down, and around the labia. Every woman is different, so start paying attention to what she likes and what she doesn't. Take note.
Once you get to the clit, enjoy yourself—but pay attention to your rhythm. Fast, slow, firm, sloppy—every woman has their thing, and what works can change. If you get invited back, try some new things (gradually), but don’t forget to what you already learned.
Here are other techniques you could try:
Once you've got her moaning and writhing with pleasure from that particular trick you're doing (whatever it is), do not stop. Unless you’re very confident, it's possible that if you interrupt her orgasm before lift-off, she won’t be able to get it back. We are not discouraging you from teasing her, we just want to acknowledge that most women have a "threshold," and once you've hit it, take it home. Once you're in her 'sweet spot,' all you need to do is continue whatever licking motion you're doing. Then, you can slowly increase the pressure and speed until the fireworks arrive.
To create even more sensation, you can add the joy of internal pleasure while (still) going down on. Slide one lubed (or licked) finger into her vagina and slowly glide it in and out. Pay extra attention to how she’s responding; if she’s getting even more turned on, move on to two or three fingers to find out what she likes best. Try bringing your fingers to her mouth and have her lubricate them for you.
As discussed, it’s now time to find the G-spot. The g-spot is located on the upper vaginal walls and should feel like a wet raspberry or a sponge; you'll know once you've found it. Create that repeated, gentle "come here" motion we discussed, with your fingers massaging the g-spot. She’ll thank you for it. If she’s too sensitive for that much stimulation, she’ll probably let you know.
Before you penetrate her with your fingers (or anything else) make eye contact. Not only is it hot, but this is a good way to “ask” if she wants to be penetrated. Other than fingering her, you can use your hands to play with her body. Squeeze her butt sensually. Gently cup her boobs. Make her feel like a sex goddess.
Sometimes, despite your best efforts, your partner won’t orgasm. That’s okay. If your tongue is fatigued and can’t lick any longer, you can break out a vibrator to help finish the job. Getting your pussy licked is a lot more fun when it’s an adventure, and not a sprint to the finish. The only kind of sexual pressure that ever feels good is the physical kind. Cunnilingus can be thrilling even if she doesn't come. The big 'O' is great, but when you get it really good, it's just icing.
Every vagina has its unique scent, which depends on the bacteria that reside within and the woman's lifestyle factors, like levels of hygiene, diet, and bathroom habits. As a result, it's challenging to describe the smells of a vagina. We’d start with “good.”
Nonetheless, vaginas should never smell like rotten fish, or anything terribly foul. If your sexual partner is healthy down there, you shouldn't catch a whiff of anything that'll put you off. If you sense something’s wrong, risk embarrassing her and say something. It’s for her health.
Yes. Although less likely than from intercourse, you can get STIs from licking pussy. The truly responsible will invest in dental dams, gloves, and/or regular testing.
There’s no “signature move” that’s going to work every time. You’ll be able to tell if you’re doing it right based on her moans, thrusts, breath—and for the more quiet types, be sure to ask. Many women begin to get flushed before they orgasm, so if her pussy (or any part of her skin) starts to get pinker, you’re almost there.
She's screaming, "I'm coming; I'm coming!" Should you do anything differently? No. Well, most of the time, as previously mentioned, you should maintain a steady rhythm when she's close to the edge. It may require a lot of attention, and maybe practice.
If you’re confident in your abilities, now you can try another technique to delay her orgasm. When she’s close to orgasm, slow down ever so slightly, so she takes longer than usual to come. This way, she'll experience the hyper-pleasurable build up to climaxing over an extended period, making her eventual orgasm that much more pleasurable and intense.
Just like males, women have a refraction period after having a clitoral orgasm. Your partner’s clitoris will become ultra-sensitive and can feel painful when touched. For some reason, the is a great time to begin (or continue) penetration, for others it’s not a good idea at all. Again, you’ll have to ask. When in doubt, focus your attention on other parts of her body. If you’d like to eat her out for a second time (we stan!), returning to foreplay is a good idea.
