So, you want to add anal sex to your sexual repertoire. That’s great! But unlike other types of sex, where you can pretty much fumble your way through and still have a pleasurable experience, both mental and physical preparation are critical for mutually-satisfying anal sex. But– what kind of preparation? Here, find out everything you need to know about doing the deed with the derriere for the first time.
To put it crudely, anal will feel like you’re pooping – but in reverse. Of course, that's not all you'd feel. Your anus has thousands of sensitive nerve endings in and around it. Once you get comfortable and start to relax, the initial discomfort associated with having something thrust in and out often turns into pleasure.
And while a little pain is common – especially in the beginning, it should never feel like something is grating you from the inside. If it does, however, stop. Go back to the drawing board. Only return to anal play when you’re all riled up and excited once again.
One of your biggest concerns when it comes to anal play is probably that of a ton of poop sneaking up on you mid-anal. Well, honestly, anal sex doesn't typically get as messy as you fear. Contrary to popular belief, feces are not stored near the anus nor the rectum, where anal occurs, but in the upper bowels. So, the chances of losing control of the bowels when enjoying some backdoor bliss are pretty low.
But with that said, you might encounter a little poop. If you feel that this might be a deal-breaker, you can always ensure that the rectum is clear before the deed by anal douching or washing.
First things first: yes – bleeding from the anus may occur after going all the way south. But to put your mind at ease, it's completely normal. That's because the lining of the anus and rectum are thin – they are prone to tearing under pressure, like the kind that happens during anal penetration. Beyond that, it's also critical to mention that the anus isn't at all self-lubricating. So, without sufficient lubrication (lots and lots of it), rectal bleeding will occur.
Nonetheless, if you're experiencing a steady flow of blood from the butt, instead of a few occasional drops, you should head to seek medical help. While serious anal sex injuries are incredibly rare, it's always important to err on the side of caution.
Just because there's no risk of getting a bun in the oven, doesn't mean you can skip the condom. That's because condoms are the only way you can prevent sexually transmitted infections. Anything you can get from other sexual activity, you can also get from anal penetration – including HIV, chlamydia, gonorrhea, syphilis, herpes, and HPV. Not fun. In fact, the butt has even more capillaries, which often results in higher chances of contracting an STD.
Yes, the back door orgasm exists. As mentioned earlier, your anus is packed with nerves – especially the incredibly erogenous pudendal nerve, which connects to erogenous organs. With all the stimulation happening down south, your chances of experiencing a mind-numbing, intense orgasm are high.
Can’t wait to put that P in the A? Follow this step-by-step guide so you can go forth without fear and, most importantly, have fun! That's what sex is all about, after all!
Hopefully, this helps answer some of your burning questions about anal sex, and how you can proceed to experience its wonders for the first time. In the end, if you’ve done it, and you despise it, that's totally fine. You don't have to do it again. Your body; your choice – always.
