Let's face it: giving her just one orgasm in the bedroom is cause for celebration. But multiple orgasms? Well, that might not be as much of a far-off fantasy as you think. Research –and biology –sow that multiple peaks are entirely possible for women. While men need to wait for their refractory period to pass before they’re ready for round two, women don’t seem to need the same reloading phase.
For women, orgasm builds from arousal. You have a better chance of making her peak repeatedly if you’ve built up sexual tension; the higher her anticipation and sexual energy, the easier it is for her to have multiple orgasms. And that means you should be engaging in foreplay long before you reach the bedroom.
So, if you know that multiple Os are on the menu for the evening, start the morning off with a dirty text or two. Let her know how badly you're craving for her. Tell her what you want to do to her the moment she gets home. And if you meet her in the afternoon, be sure to lavish her with compliments and praises. Turn up the PDA and shower her with affection and touches. She'll be dripping wet way before you take her clothes off.
Have a specific number you’d like your lady to hit? Don’t. You don’t want to say something like, “I want you to come seven times tonight.” Even If she wants to orgasm seven times, it adds a lot of pressure. Not only to her but also to yourself.
Instead, focus on facilitating an environment of pleasure for the sake of pleasure. Rather than having the thought of, 'I want to make her come X number of times,' you should reframe your objective for the night as 'I just want to give her as many orgasms as I can.' Only then can both of you relax and enjoy what's on hand: an incredibly pleasurable experience.
The sheets are bunched up around her ankles; she's breathless: moaning, bucking, and begging for you not to stop. Even though your first impulse would be to continue to see that satisfying big 'O' face on her, you shouldn't. What you want to do, instead, is to tease her. Reduce your stimulation rhythm, then start all over again. Keep bringing her to the edge, then back. The constant ebb and flow of sexual tension will drive her crazy. By postponing her moment of release, you’re building up more pleasure for the actual moment of climax. And when she finally comes, just one orgasm will never be able to satisfy the hunger you’ve awakened in her.
If she's coming more than once, she might not be able to stay wet throughout the experience. Luckily, that problem is easily solved with a bottle – or two – of lube. Remember: there can never be too much lube, so squeeze away! Just a word of caution, though, oil-based lubes can break down latex condoms. So if any form of penetration is involved, it's safer to stick to water- and silicone-based lubes.
Once she's had an orgasm, give her clitoris a short break, as it becomes extremely sensitive after for many women. But that doesn't mean that you can rest, however. You need to keep her in a semi-aroused state, so you don't have to start from scratch again.
So, prime her for what’s to come (pun intended) by talking dirty to her. Tell her how sexy she looked when she came, and that you want to see the sight again. Focus on her other erogenous zones – massage her butt cheeks, swirl your tongue over her nipples, and lay kisses on her neck. Then, once she’s all aroused, you can return your attention to her clitoris.
There’s nothing wrong with sticking with what works, but many women like variety. So, if you went with quick, frenzied, circular movements during her first orgasm, you can try a slower, gentler approach for the second. Skirt around her clitoris instead of stimulating it directly, for example.
Also, you don’t have to stick to your fingers – a completely different sensation can come from your tongue or vibrator, too. Try experimenting with various licking width, rhythm, and motions to see what she enjoys the best.
Don’t let her lie on her back through orgasms one to five! Novelty encourages the release of the feel-good chemical dopamine, which may help her orgasm faster. Keep your partner on her toes by alternating between sex positions between orgasms. To increase your chances of giving her multiple orgasms, opt for peak-friendly sex positions – such as the doggie style and the missionary – that allow you to touch her clitoris.
Why stick to only one type of orgasm (clitoral) when you can give your partner different kinds of orgasms? There’s the G-spot, anal, and even nipple orgasm! Let’s say her clitoris is now too sensitive to handle any more stimulation. Well, start playing with her G-spot! Once she comes from that, you should move on to her nipples, then her anus.
'Stacking' different orgasm types not only prevent a specific spot from becoming too sensitive, but you'll also start noticing that she starts coming before her last orgasm is over. Her orgasms will blend, and the entire experience will seem like one giant, never-ending orgasm that keeps going up and down in intensity – like a rollercoaster of bliss and ecstasy.
We often forget to be conscious of our breath during sex. But slow, deep breaths when getting it on can help your partner connect in a deeper way to both your body and yours. It’s not just that, either: deep breaths can help your partner stay engaged and present during the experience, significantly increasing the chances of her achieving multiple orgasms!
Giving your partner multiple orgasms doesn't mean that she has to orgasm one after the other in quick succession. Multiple orgasms can also mean peaking several times in a day – no matter the time lapse between the individual big Os. So, feel free to come to a full stop after she's gone over the edge for the first time. Or the second time. Any time, really. Give her clitoris – and whole body – a break. Orgasming, as pleasurable as it is, can be quite tiring, after all.
Go ahead and drink up, eat a light snack, cuddle, and chill out. Allowing both your bodies to recharge after each orgasm can increase the chances of her coming again later. It’s a marathon, not a sprint!
So, as you can see, making her come multiple times isn’t as challenging as others would have you believe. With patience and application of the above tips, you’ll soon have her screaming your name in the bed more than once!
